Relationships 1.0

For a while now I’ve been asked to do a couple of blogs on relationships. So, for the next few weeks, I am going to give you a few thoughts on this subject that I believe will be helpful. The sad fact is that Christians make relationships complicated. It’s like we’ve handed the responsibility to God and made comments like, “when God wants me to have it, He will open the door.” So if we go with that type of thinking then what about the gift of giving? If God wants us to give, does money jump out of our pocket? Or do we begin to choose to give. Even with our health, we know that the rain falls on the just and the unjust, but do we really want to say that we have no responsibility in our health?

We ultimately understand that God is our source for a mate, our finances, and our health. James says that only good things come from the Father, yet James also says faith without works is dead. So “yes” God will give you a mate and “yes” you will have to partner with him to get ready for one, find one, and keep one.

Time and time again we see God blessing what we put our hand to. Relationships are not any different. We must use our God given authority and take action steps. Now just wait before everyone starts emailing me scriptures and debating theology. I believe this is the problem: we are either in one ditch or the other. Either you’re in the “all God” camp or in the “all me” camp. The all God camp is a waiting camp. The all me camp is a striving camp.

Here is what God wants for you. God wants to be intricately involved in our lives. Proverbs clearly states “Acknowledge him in all your ways and he will direct your paths.” I believe He will lead, confirm, and direct us. That scripture does not negate our responsibility, it eliminates the fear that many Christians walk in. Many are motivated to “wait for God” because they are afraid they will do it the wrong way or choose poorly. He will bless what we put our hands to, in relationships.

Jesus said it himself, “Seek first the Kingdom of God and all these other things will be added.” This means that if you focus on Him first then you will want to do the will of the Father. Finances, health, marriage, parenting, and loving people will all “be added” when our heart and actions represent the Father’s. Remember it was God who knew it was not good for man to be alone, so He made woman. This was the one to help man! The design of women is to be a helper! God crafted her to partner with man and they both would expand the Kingdom! This is clearly the heart of the Father from the beginning.

To every woman who is reading this blog you were made with a purpose. Now in our culture this isn’t embraced but it still doesn’t remove the meaning of who a woman is. The devil has always tried to redefine God’s creation. Animals were to serve man, but now as a culture, men serve them. God created a nation, yet his own people wanted to be more progressive and have a king. Men were to be stewards, but as a culture, we’ve reduced men to needing chaperones. My point with these examples is God’s way works. The farther we get from His original intent the more other areas begin to break down. This is why I have a heart to see relationships be formed and thrive, because it is the will of the Father. God wants the roles he has created for both men and women to be restored. In the next few blogs, I want to discuss the fear, rejection, and disappointment that many face in dealing with relationships. Below are a few scriptures to start thinking about. See you back here in a week.

Gen 1:26 The God said, “let us make man in our image according to our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.

Gen 2:20 …But for Adam there was not FOUND a helper suitable for him.

Judges 21:23 So that is what the Benjamites did. While the young women were dancing, each man caught one and carried her off to be his wife. Then they returned to their inheritance and rebuilt the towns and settled in them.

Esther 2:4 Then let the young woman who pleases the king be queen instead of Vashti.” This advice appealed to the king, and he followed it.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD